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In this article by Sophie Saint Thomas  - "Queerplatonic relationships have always existed. As with most relationship labels...

Cosmopolitan - What Is a Queerplatonic Relationship?

Cosmopolitan - What Is a Queerplatonic Relationship?

26 Jun 2024

“As with anything in life, when we move quickly through experiences, we run the risk of glossing over or missing something,” says Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

COSMOPOLITAN - Slow Sex Is The Best Sex

COSMOPOLITAN - Slow Sex Is The Best Sex

5 Jun 2024

“Both love and infatuation can feel similar in terms of the neurochemicals they create, such as oxytocin, dopamine, and adrenaline,” says Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

COSMOPOLITAN - Confused About Infatuation vs. Love?

COSMOPOLITAN - Confused About Infatuation vs. Love?

30 May 2024

I was quoted in the Huffington post on their piece about how the TV show Mary & George hitoricizes the sexually fluid queer community

Mary & George' Lets Us Reimagine All History as Queer History

Mary & George' Lets Us Reimagine All History as Queer History

18 Apr 2024

NYC-based psychotherapist, sex therapist, and BDSM expert Dulcinea Pitagora explains, kink can be generally defined as “any eroticized interaction that falls outside the statistical norm of heteronormative sex”.

The VICE Guide to Kink

The VICE Guide to Kink

5 Jan 2024

This Locker Room Talk & Shots podcast features a conversation about the cuckhold fetish with renowned sex therapist and BDSM expert  Dr. Dulcinea Alex Pitagora (AKA the Kink Doctor).

A Guide to Cuckolding With The Kink Doctor!

A Guide to Cuckolding With The Kink Doctor!

24 Oct 2023

Dr. Dulcinea Alex Pitagora answers why it's a little more than showing up and getting down.

How to Have a Good Time at a Sex Party, According to People Who Go to a Lot of Them

How to Have a Good Time at a Sex Party, According to People Who Go to a Lot of Them

19 Oct 2023

I was quoted extensively in Joseph Lamour’s article for Today on the guilt and shame of being a gay Chick-fil-A customer.

Today - I’m gay and I eat at Chick-fil-A. Should I feel ashamed?

Today - I’m gay and I eat at Chick-fil-A. Should I feel ashamed?

1 Jul 2023

I spoke with Jamie Valentino for Cashmere Magazine about how kinks and fetishes develop and can be incorporated into relationships.

Cashmere Magazine - Can You Develop A Kink?

Cashmere Magazine - Can You Develop A Kink?

9 Jun 2023

I was interviewed by Casey Clark for their Women’s Health article about what it means to identify as queer.

Women's Health - What Does 'Queer' Mean?

Women's Health - What Does 'Queer' Mean?

27 Apr 2023

I was interviewed by Mina Starsiak Hawk (star of Two Chicks and a Hammer) about sex, sex work, anal sex, how to talk about sex, oh and also sex, for her podcast Mina AF.

Mina AF - Let's Talk About Sex Baby

Mina AF - Let's Talk About Sex Baby

4 Apr 2023

I spoke with Mike Adams about opening up to exploring kink for his Hustler Magazine article.

Hustler Magazine - [Kink:] Don’t Knock It Till You Try It

Hustler Magazine - [Kink:] Don’t Knock It Till You Try It

27 Mar 2023

My insights were included in Ashley Oken’s article for Women’s Health about the what it means to identify as greyromantic.

Women's Health - What Does It Mean To Be Greyromantic?

Women's Health - What Does It Mean To Be Greyromantic?

12 Mar 2023

I was quoted alongside other sexuality experts by Ian Kerner in his piece for CNN Health on the transition from monogamy to nonmonogamy.

CNN Health - Can A Monogamous Couple Happily Become Nonmonogamous?

CNN Health - Can A Monogamous Couple Happily Become Nonmonogamous?

19 Feb 2023

I was interviewed for this piece on unrealistic sexual fantasies by Ella Dorval Hall for Well+Good.

Why People Have Sexual Fantasies About Things They Don’t Want To Do in Real Life

Why People Have Sexual Fantasies About Things They Don’t Want To Do in Real Life

16 Jan 2023

Sage Agee interviewed me on their Insider piece about navigating multiple polyamorous relationships.

Insider - This is [Sage Agee's] first holiday out as polyamorous.

Insider - This is [Sage Agee's] first holiday out as polyamorous.

20 Dec 2022

Kayla Kibbe quoted me in her article for Cosmopolitan on how to avoid awkwardness at sex parties.

Cosmopolitan: How Not to Be the Most Awkward Person at a Sex Party

Cosmopolitan: How Not to Be the Most Awkward Person at a Sex Party

13 Dec 2022

I was asked to give an expert opinion on this article by Jenna Ryu about the difference between BDSM and sexual abuse for USA Today.

Armie Hammer Allegations an Example of What Distinguishes BDSM from Sexual Violence

Armie Hammer Allegations an Example of What Distinguishes BDSM from Sexual Violence

6 Sept 2022

Always a pleasure to speak with Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic Magazine about the importance of pleasure, particularly during hard times.

Mic - How Pleasure became Political

Mic - How Pleasure became Political

16 Aug 2022

I had a great time talking to Marie Southard Ospina about non-monogamy for her SELF article, "6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship."

Self - 6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship

Self - 6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship

28 Jul 2022

Here’s round two of my quotes included alongside other sexuality experts in Fabiana Buontempo's follow up article for BuzzFeed with answers to readers' questions about some of my favorite topics

BuzzFeed - 16 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Shy, Embarrassed,

BuzzFeed - 16 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Shy, Embarrassed,

10 Jun 2022

I was quoted alongside other sexuality experts in Fabiana Buontempo's article for BuzzFeed with answers to readers' questions about some of my favorite topics, including squirting, non-monogamy, and anal!

BuzzFeed - 15 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Embarrassed To Ask About

BuzzFeed - 15 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Embarrassed To Ask About

19 Apr 2022

I was one of the relationship experts quoted by Natanya Biskar in this SELF article about how to spot and what to do about red flags in relationships.

Self - 17 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore, According to Therapists

Self - 17 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore, According to Therapists

21 Feb 2022

I was interviewed by Michael Adams for Hustler Magazine about expressing “bizarre” desires with partners.

Hustler Magazine - Sex Requests: The Weird, the Nasty… the Awesome!

Hustler Magazine - Sex Requests: The Weird, the Nasty… the Awesome!

13 Dec 2021

I highly recommend traveling with sex toys in general, and gave some tips to Mark Hay for his Mashable article on the topic.

Mashable - How to Travel with Sex Toys

Mashable - How to Travel with Sex Toys

7 Dec 2021

I scratched the surface on ethical non-monogamy by answering Sophie Saint Thomas’s 20 questions on the topic for Men's Health.

Men’s Health - 20 Questions With Open Relationships Sex Therapist Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

Men’s Health - 20 Questions With Open Relationships Sex Therapist Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

30 Nov 2021

I contributed to a verrrry long conversation about BDSM on Volonté, A Video Podcast by LELO.

Volonté, A Video Podcast by LELO - The World of BDSM

Volonté, A Video Podcast by LELO - The World of BDSM

25 Nov 2021

I was featured in Gina Escandon’s article highlighting the essentials of ethical non-monogamy for SheKnows.

SheKnows - Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ethical Non-Monogamy

SheKnows - Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ethical Non-Monogamy

23 Nov 2021

I gave some insight into aftercare for Sophie Saint Thomas’s Men's Health piece.

Men’s Health - What You Do After Sex Will Help You Have Way More of It

Men’s Health - What You Do After Sex Will Help You Have Way More of It

19 Oct 2021

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan about the gendering of fitness for Mic Magazine.

Mic - Why Does Fitness Need to Be This Gendered?

Mic - Why Does Fitness Need to Be This Gendered?

8 Oct 2021

I was interviewed by Ella Dorval Hall on the topic of cuckolding for O.School.

O.School - Cuckolding: What It Is And Why Some People Love It

O.School - Cuckolding: What It Is And Why Some People Love It

12 Sept 2021

I was quoted in Tracey Anne Duncan’s Mic Magazine piece on post-traumatic growth.

Mic - How Will Our Pandemic Trauma Translate into Emotional Growth?

Mic - How Will Our Pandemic Trauma Translate into Emotional Growth?

3 Jun 2021

I talked to James Sias for his video podcast Practicing Polyamory about emerging identities, and when poly is an identity and when it’s not.

Practicing Polyamory Podcast - How to Establish Your Identity

Practicing Polyamory Podcast - How to Establish Your Identity

23 Apr 2021

I was asked to give my hot take on why a certain couple might get a sexual charge out of public finger sucking in Marisa Dellatto’s piece for the New York Post.

New York Post - Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker’s Finger-Sucking, Explained

New York Post - Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker’s Finger-Sucking, Explained

22 Apr 2021

I got a mention in Tracey Anne Duncan’s piece for Mic Magazine about the importance of gender affirming clothing choices.

Mic - Both& Is Filling the Fashion Void with Its Gender Affirming Clothes

Mic - Both& Is Filling the Fashion Void with Its Gender Affirming Clothes

18 Apr 2021

I’m quoted in Tracey Anne Duncan’s piece for Mic Magazine about people using TikTok to send sex positive messages about consent.

Mic - TikTok Is Making Consent Sexy Again

Mic - TikTok Is Making Consent Sexy Again

26 Mar 2021

I offered my two cents for Tracey Anne Duncan’s Mic Magazine piece on premature post-COVID re-entry anxiety.

Mic - Re-entry Anxiety is Real. Here's How to Cope

Mic - Re-entry Anxiety is Real. Here's How to Cope

21 Mar 2021

Mark Hay quotes my take on the hysteria around anal swabbing to detect COVID for his piece in the Daily Beast.

Daily Beast - The New COVID Truther Freakout Is the Most Absurd Yet

Daily Beast - The New COVID Truther Freakout Is the Most Absurd Yet

25 Feb 2021

Tracey Anne Duncan quoted me in her Mic Magazine piece about the increase in the disclosure of queerness among young people.

Mic - More Young People Identify as LGBTQ+ Than Ever Before

Mic - More Young People Identify as LGBTQ+ Than Ever Before

24 Feb 2021

My two cents on open relationship terminology was included in this GQ piece by Sophie Saint Thomas.

GQ - The A-to-Z Guide to Open Relationship Terminology

GQ - The A-to-Z Guide to Open Relationship Terminology

22 Feb 2021

My research on the therapeutic benefits of subspace in BDSM interactions was referenced in Jamee Bell’s article on the topic for Big Think.

Big Think - Are There Therapeutic and Relational Benefits to Being Submissive?

Big Think - Are There Therapeutic and Relational Benefits to Being Submissive?

16 Feb 2021

I collaborated with Tracey Anne Duncan for her Mic Magazine piece about leaning into self-compassion and self-love as an antidote to internalized misogyny.

Mic - On Unlearning Gender Norms: Will I Ever Stop Acting Like a Girl?

Mic - On Unlearning Gender Norms: Will I Ever Stop Acting Like a Girl?

10 Feb 2021

Very pleased to be quoted alongside the illustrious Miss Couple in this article on the ins and outs of small penis humiliation by Kayla Kibbe for InsideHook.

What Is Small Penis Humiliation, And Can It Help Men Struggling With Size Insecurity?

What Is Small Penis Humiliation, And Can It Help Men Struggling With Size Insecurity?

3 Feb 2021

Myself and my esteemed colleague Jesse Kahn were quoted in Allison Hope's piece for CNN Health on thinking and speaking more expansively and inclusively about gender.

CNN Health - What's Your Gender? I Prefer Not to Say

CNN Health - What's Your Gender? I Prefer Not to Say

2 Feb 2021

I was quoted about the impact the pandemic has had on gender presentation this BuzzFeed piece by Fancy Feast.

BuzzFeed - Six Trans People Talk About Their Pandemic Bodies

BuzzFeed - Six Trans People Talk About Their Pandemic Bodies

19 Jan 2021

I gave Joseph Lamour way more than two cents about how to set oneself up for success in exploring new role-plays for this Mic Magazine piece.

Mic - How to Role-play without Feeling Super Awkward

Mic - How to Role-play without Feeling Super Awkward

10 Jan 2021

This piece by Molly Longman for Refinery29 has my hot take on masturbating while thinking about partners.

Bridgerton' Review: Is It Wrong To Never Fantasize About Your Partner While Masturbating?

Bridgerton' Review: Is It Wrong To Never Fantasize About Your Partner While Masturbating?

27 Dec 2020

My musings on the benefits of clit pumping were quoted in this Refinery29 piece by Molly Longman.

Refinery29 - Clit Pumps Are Sexy, Useful, & Very Underrated

Refinery29 - Clit Pumps Are Sexy, Useful, & Very Underrated

21 Dec 2020

I spoke with Sophie Saint Thomas about what kink and psychedelics do and don’t have in common in this piece for Double Blind.

Double Blind - Why We All Need to Be Spanked and Trip Right Now

Double Blind - Why We All Need to Be Spanked and Trip Right Now

16 Dec 2020

I was quoted in this Refinery29 piece by Molly Longman about how the movie “Happiest Season” portrays dating someone who’s closeted.

What ‘Happiest Season’ Gets Right & Wrong About Dating Someone Who Isn’t Out

What ‘Happiest Season’ Gets Right & Wrong About Dating Someone Who Isn’t Out

25 Nov 2020

I was quoted in this a beautiful piece of disclosure by Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic about how it can be empowering to adjust body size as a form of gender presentation body modification.

Mic - How My Weight Affirms My Gender Identity

Mic - How My Weight Affirms My Gender Identity

24 Nov 2020

Tracey Anne Duncan reported on the lack of access many trans people have to hormones for Mic, and I put in my two cents plus a little extra on the psychological affects of this phenomenon.

A Shocking Number of Trans Americans are Forced to Get Hormones on the "Grey Market"

A Shocking Number of Trans Americans are Forced to Get Hormones on the "Grey Market"

11 Nov 2020

I spoke with Joseph Lamour for his Mic article on where sexual shame comes from and how to exorcise it.

Mic - I Grew Up Associating Queer Sex with Shame, Here’s How I’m Unlearning It

Mic - I Grew Up Associating Queer Sex with Shame, Here’s How I’m Unlearning It

28 Sept 2020

I spoke with Sophie Saint Thomas about the psychology of knife play for Playboy.

Playboy - The Kinky World of Knife Play

Playboy - The Kinky World of Knife Play

31 Jul 2020

I was quoted in this Refinery29 piece by Molly Longman on the joys of summertime sensation play.

Refinery29 - The Icy Tricks That Can Transform Summer Sex

Refinery29 - The Icy Tricks That Can Transform Summer Sex

31 Jul 2020

I was honored to be sexologist Cyndi Darnell’s inaugural guest on her podcast, The Erotic Philosopher.

The Erotic Philosopher Podcast - How to Get Better at Talking about Pleasure

The Erotic Philosopher Podcast - How to Get Better at Talking about Pleasure

30 Jul 2020

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic about the intersection of coronivirus and denial as a coping mechanism for the fear of death.

Mic - Coronavirus and Denial: Why Some People Just Can't Face Reality

Mic - Coronavirus and Denial: Why Some People Just Can't Face Reality

17 Jul 2020

A liberation story in which Tracey Anne Duncan quoted the hell out of me for Mic.

Mic - How Quarantine Liberated Me from the Gender Binary

Mic - How Quarantine Liberated Me from the Gender Binary

4 Jul 2020

I was interviewed by Samantha Cole for her Vice piece about coping with fluctuations in desire during the pandemic.

VICE - Apocalypse Porn Shows Why People Are Horny for the End of the World

VICE - Apocalypse Porn Shows Why People Are Horny for the End of the World

26 Jun 2020

Canela López included me in an expert roundup for Insider about how quarantining during the pandemic will affect sexuality.

What Happens to Your Body When You Don't Have Sex for a Long Time

What Happens to Your Body When You Don't Have Sex for a Long Time

24 Jun 2020

I spoke about how to deal with romance during a pandemic with Michelle Kim for them.

How to Deal With Quarantining Away From Your Partner During Coronavirus

How to Deal With Quarantining Away From Your Partner During Coronavirus

20 Mar 2020

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic about why social distancing during early stages of COVID-19 is making people horny.

Mic - Why Social Distancing Is Making Me Horny

Mic - Why Social Distancing Is Making Me Horny

16 Mar 2020

Alexi Cardona quoted me in an article on foot fetishists for Miami New Times.

Miami New Times - Miami's Fetish Community Falls Head Over Heels for Feet

Miami New Times - Miami's Fetish Community Falls Head Over Heels for Feet

11 Feb 2020

A very timely and useful piece on things LGBTQ people can do before and after spending holiday time with family they’re not out to—by Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic with quotes by yours truly.

Mic - How to Survive the Holidays When Your Family Doesn't Know You're Gay

Mic - How to Survive the Holidays When Your Family Doesn't Know You're Gay

21 Dec 2019

I was quoted along with other therapists on how to deal with difficult relatives over the holidays in this piece by Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic.

Mic - How to Deal with Difficult Relatives: A Therapist's Guide

Mic - How to Deal with Difficult Relatives: A Therapist's Guide

11 Dec 2019

Once again I find myself in excellent company quoted alongside Dr. Meg-John Barker and Manhattan Alternative colleague Deesha Narichania in Erin Taylor's article for on sexual boundaries

Allure - How to Make (and Maintain) Healthy Sexual Boundaries

Allure - How to Make (and Maintain) Healthy Sexual Boundaries

29 Nov 2019

I was thrilled to speak with Anna Borges for SELF about self-care tips for sex workers.

Self - The Sex Worker Self-Care Kit

Self - The Sex Worker Self-Care Kit

22 Nov 2019

It’s so much fun talking to Tracey Anne Duncan about sex toys—here’s the result of our latest conversation about the evolution of sex toys as reported in Mic.

Mic - How Sex Toys Finally Evolved Beyond the Big Fake Penis

Mic - How Sex Toys Finally Evolved Beyond the Big Fake Penis

21 Nov 2019

In Tracey Anne Duncan’s Mic article on whether or not temporarily abstaining from sex can help you focus I get the pleasure of being quoted alongside Justin Lehmiller PLUS Tracey Anne kept my snarky comment about chastity play from getting edited out!

Mic - Can Temporarily Abstaining From Sex Actually Help You Focus?

Mic - Can Temporarily Abstaining From Sex Actually Help You Focus?

4 Nov 2019

I really love this article that Tracey Anne Duncan wrote (which happens to quote me) for Mic about having good sex after trauma.

Mic - Having Good Sex after Trauma Means Being Vocal about Your Triggers

Mic - Having Good Sex after Trauma Means Being Vocal about Your Triggers

13 Sept 2019

My two cents were included in Tracey Anne Duncan’s article for Mic about new research findings about sexting.

Mic - Why Do We Sext? It's about More Than Just Lust, Says New Research

Mic - Why Do We Sext? It's about More Than Just Lust, Says New Research

14 Aug 2019

I was quoted in Tracey Anne Duncan’s article for Mic about non-binary sex toys and sexuality.

Mic - The future of sex toys is non-binary and this vibrator is just the start

Mic - The future of sex toys is non-binary and this vibrator is just the start

23 Jul 2019

Tracey Anne Duncan and I talked about the ins and outs of ethical sexual exploration in her article for Mic.

Mic - How to explore your sexuality and minimize the emotional fallout for others

Mic - How to explore your sexuality and minimize the emotional fallout for others

15 Jul 2019

I spoke with Erika W. Smith about the importance of properly storing sex toys for her piece in Refinery29.

Refinery29 - How To Store Sex Toys In Even The Tiniest Apartment

Refinery29 - How To Store Sex Toys In Even The Tiniest Apartment

11 Jul 2019

Tracey Anne Duncan and I talked about the reality of post-Pride drop and where it comes from in her article for Mic.

Post-Pride Depression Is So Real for LGBTQ+ People Who Have to Go Back to Real Life

Post-Pride Depression Is So Real for LGBTQ+ People Who Have to Go Back to Real Life

3 Jul 2019

Take home message from my conversation with Tracey Anne Duncan for her Mic article: Be redundant and obvious when it comes to consent. We also talk about disclosing kinkiness + erotic asphyxiation & etc, check it out!

Mic - How to Talk About Kink With A New Partner, Because It Doesn't Have To Be Awkward

Mic - How to Talk About Kink With A New Partner, Because It Doesn't Have To Be Awkward

1 Jul 2019

My former colleague Justine Cross and I spoke with Carrie Weisman for her FatherlyHQ article on BDSM for beginners.

What Is BDSM? Want to Try Bondage? Here’s What Curious Couples Need to Know

What Is BDSM? Want to Try Bondage? Here’s What Curious Couples Need to Know

19 Jun 2019

My advice on "Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life" is included in Marriage.com‘s “Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life—Expert Roundup”

Marriage.com -  Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life—Expert Roundup

Marriage.com - Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life—Expert Roundup

25 May 2019

I spoke with Dr. Timaree Schmidt on Sex with Timaree (Podcast Edition) about my research on straight men who enjoy receiving anal sex, how annoying IRBs can be, among many other things.

Sex with Timaree Podcast - Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora Returns!

Sex with Timaree Podcast - Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora Returns!

24 May 2019

I was asked to contribute my thoughts for this piece on the potential plights and pleasures of auto-fellatio by Mark Hay for Men's Health.

The Long, Complicated History of Men Trying to Suck Their Own Dicks

The Long, Complicated History of Men Trying to Suck Their Own Dicks

29 Apr 2019

I gave my interpretation of a study’s statistics on who’s having the most sex over age 50 and how in Ian Kerner's article for CNN.

CNN - Who Is Having More Sex over Age 50, Research Explores

CNN - Who Is Having More Sex over Age 50, Research Explores

22 Mar 2019

I collaborated with Grant Stoddard on this article for BestLife in which we talk about SO MANY roleplays and how they can add some spice to your sex life.

BestLife - 40 Erotic Role Play Ideas That’ll Totally Spice Up Your Sex Life

BestLife - 40 Erotic Role Play Ideas That’ll Totally Spice Up Your Sex Life

15 Feb 2019

I was interviewed for this great article on taking dating sabbaticals by Aly Semigran for Well+Good:

Well+Good: On Taking a Dating Sabbatical

Well+Good: On Taking a Dating Sabbatical

12 Feb 2019

I was quoted in this very cute and informative article on spanking by Carolyn Yates for Nylon.

Nylon: Spanking Sex Guide

Nylon: Spanking Sex Guide

11 Feb 2019

I have a conversation with Tristan Taormino, the host of Sex Out Loud radio show, about being out as kinky as a therapist, the commonalities between sex work and psychotherapy, and the AltSex NYC Conference, among many other things in this hour long convo. 

Sex Out Loud Radio

Sex Out Loud Radio

1 Feb 2019

I was quoted in this fun article by Carrie Weisman for FatherlyHQ on the use of the term “Daddy” during sex.

Fatherly HQ - How Did “Daddy” Became So Sexual?

Fatherly HQ - How Did “Daddy” Became So Sexual?

29 Jan 2019

I was was asked to describe the kinky edge play aspects of deep throating in Carrie Weisman's article for Men's Health.

Men’s Health - How Deep Throating Exploded Into America's Bedrooms

Men’s Health - How Deep Throating Exploded Into America's Bedrooms

14 Dec 2018

I had a conversation with Grant Stoddard for his Vice piece about the best and worst sex games.

These Sex Games Could Help You Explore Desires You Didn’t Even Know You Had

These Sex Games Could Help You Explore Desires You Didn’t Even Know You Had

28 Nov 2018

Always happy to be cited alongside Charlie Glickman in an article about anal! Kasandra Brabaw drives it home once again for Refinery29.

Refinery29 - "The Dirty Details Of Anal Sex"

Refinery29 - "The Dirty Details Of Anal Sex"

7 Nov 2018

I’m quoted in this article on temperature play by Kasandra Brabaw for Refinery29.

Refinery29 - "Fire & Ice: A How-To Guide To Temperature Sex Play"

Refinery29 - "Fire & Ice: A How-To Guide To Temperature Sex Play"

1 Nov 2018

I had a whole lot of fun talking about the ins and outs of anal with Kasandra Brabaw for Refinery29.

Refinery29 - "6 Things To Know Before You Try Anal Sex"

Refinery29 - "6 Things To Know Before You Try Anal Sex"

25 Oct 2018

I was interviewed and quoted by Grant Stoddard in this cleverly written article about the psychosexology of foot fetishists for Vice’s Tonic.

VICE - This Is Why Some People Are Turned on By Feet

VICE - This Is Why Some People Are Turned on By Feet

7 Sept 2018

I gave input along with other sex therapists and experts in Ian Kerner's CNN article on whether one's number of sexual partners matters, and why there tend to be inaccurate reporting among genders.

CNN - Do men really exaggerate their number of sexual partners?

CNN - Do men really exaggerate their number of sexual partners?

6 Sept 2018

I was quoted by Kasandra Brabaw for Refinery29 in an article on hook ups that's good and good for you.

Refinery29 - "FYI: Your First College Hookup Doesn't Have To 'Count'"

Refinery29 - "FYI: Your First College Hookup Doesn't Have To 'Count'"

30 Aug 2018

I was quoted by Grant Stoddard for Vice’s Tonic in what is likely the most eloquently written and entertaining article on scrotal inflation ever published.

VICE - People Are Injecting Their Scrotums With Saline to Get Huge Balls

VICE - People Are Injecting Their Scrotums With Saline to Get Huge Balls

24 Jul 2018

I was interviewed by Shawn Setaro for his Complex piece on FOSTA/SESTA’s danger to sex workers.

COMPLEX - “Is the War on Sex Work the New War on Drugs?”

COMPLEX - “Is the War on Sex Work the New War on Drugs?”

24 Jul 2018

My esteemed colleague, sex researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, quoted me in her article for them. on the ways sexuality can transition during gender transition/expansion.

them. - On How Trans Folks' Sexual Attractions Sometimes also Transition

them. - On How Trans Folks' Sexual Attractions Sometimes also Transition

25 Jun 2018

I had a stimulating conversation with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova and Joe Pardavila on their The Science of Sex podcast about consensual non-consent in BDSM and the difference between kink and abuse, among many, many other things. Another long one, better grab some popcorn.

The Science of Sex Podcast - Kink vs. Abuse

The Science of Sex Podcast - Kink vs. Abuse

29 May 2018

I was interviewed at length by Rolf Potts for his Deviate podcast, in which we cover a range of BDSM 101 topics, interspersed with a healthy dose of personal disclosure on my part. It’s an hour plus so get comfy.

Deviate Podcast - BDSM 101

Deviate Podcast - BDSM 101

8 May 2018

I talked about the science of birthday sex in this article Jamie Kravitz wrote for Elite Daily, and revealed whether or not it lives up to the hype.

Elite Daily - The Science of Birthday Sex

Elite Daily - The Science of Birthday Sex

11 Apr 2018

I was quoted in an article Carolyn Yates wrote for Autostraddle about the joys and pitfalls of noisy sex and how to embrace and/or muffle it.

Autostraddle - The Joys and Pitfalls of Noisy Sex

Autostraddle - The Joys and Pitfalls of Noisy Sex

10 Apr 2018

I was interviewed and quoted by Kristin Hugo for Newsweek on the devastation that legislation targeting sex workers is already causing

Newsweek - Devastating Legislation for Sex Workers

Newsweek - Devastating Legislation for Sex Workers

10 Apr 2018

I am quoted by Sara Jore-Pivet for French Marie Claire on the pleasure of pain in an article about spanking “La fessée thérapie ou le lâcher-prise option BDSM

Marie Claire France - La fessée thérapie ou le lâcher-prise option BDSM

Marie Claire France - La fessée thérapie ou le lâcher-prise option BDSM

23 Jan 2018

Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?” is missing the text: "I talk about the 3 C’s—Communication Creativity and Consent—in Marriage.com‘s “Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?

Marriage.com - Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?

Marriage.com - Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?

21 Dec 2017

My two cents on the Cruz porn scandal are quoted in Kate Feldman’s “Ted Cruz and the Mainstream Appeal of Incest Porn” for the New York Daily News.

New York Daily News - Ted Cruz and the Mainstream Appeal of Incest Porn

New York Daily News - Ted Cruz and the Mainstream Appeal of Incest Porn

14 Sept 2017

My perspective on the benefits of spanking in Gigi Engle’s “7 Things You Didn’t Know about Spanking Therapy” for Marie Claire.

Marie Claire - 7 Things You Didn’t Know about Spanking Therapy

Marie Claire - 7 Things You Didn’t Know about Spanking Therapy

4 Aug 2017

I respond to “Ask a Sexologist: Are women ‘less promiscuous’ than men because of biology or societal oppression?” in Slutever’s Sex + Love Advice column.

Are women ‘less promiscuous’ than men because of biology, or societal oppression?

Are women ‘less promiscuous’ than men because of biology, or societal oppression?

19 Jul 2017

A conversation with Ignite Intimacy podcast’s Ms. LAH about how KD came to be an alternative sexuality affirmative therapist and creating shame-free spaces for kink poly trans and LGBQ-identified people.

A Conversation with Ignite Intimacy

A Conversation with Ignite Intimacy

27 Jun 2017

My interview with Dr. Michael Aaron the author of Psychology Today’s Standard Deviations on what inspired the creation of Kink Doctor.

What Inspired Kink Doctor? An Interview with Psychology Today.

What Inspired Kink Doctor? An Interview with Psychology Today.

13 Jun 2017

My interview with Dr. Michael Aaron the author of Psychology Today’s Standard Deviations on what inspired the creation of Kink Doctor.

Rethinking Monogamy Today for CNN

Rethinking Monogamy Today for CNN

12 Apr 2017

The independent research team I work with debunks misconceptions about BDSM and presents findings in “Beyond 50 Shades Darker: Debunking Popular Myths about BDSM” for Psychology Today’s Standard Deviations.

Beyond 50 Shades Darker: Debunking Popular Myths about BDSM

Beyond 50 Shades Darker: Debunking Popular Myths about BDSM

10 Feb 2017

I comment on parenting while kinky in Sophie Saint Thomas’s “How to Stay Kinky After You Have Kids” for VICE Magazine.

How to Stay Kinky After You Have Kids

How to Stay Kinky After You Have Kids

23 Oct 2016

My conversation with Irish RTÉ2fm Radio’s Chris and Ciara on equal opportunity fluid bonding and other ways that kink can be bonding.

Bonding & Kink on RTÉ2fm Radio

Bonding & Kink on RTÉ2fm Radio

27 Sept 2016

My perspective on tattooing in a kinky context is quoted in Sophie Saint Thomas’ VICE Magazine article “Meet the Kinky Couples Who Get Turned on by Tattooing Each Other

Meet the Kinky Couples Who Get Turned on by Tattooing Each Other

Meet the Kinky Couples Who Get Turned on by Tattooing Each Other

28 Aug 2016

E! News reports on my conversation with EJ Johnson about his feelings surrounding his gender identity.

E! News - Conversation with EJ Johnson

E! News - Conversation with EJ Johnson

29 Jun 2016

The therapy session that EJ Johnson had with me on his reality TV show EJNYC was called a must-see moment on E! News.

Therapy Session with EJ Johnson on EJNYC

Therapy Session with EJ Johnson on EJNYC

29 Jun 2016

Sophie Saint Thomas attended and wrote about the 1st annual AltSex NYC Conference for Nylon.

Nylon: 10 Things We Learned at an Alt Sex Conference

Nylon: 10 Things We Learned at an Alt Sex Conference

15 May 2016

My talk on the intersection of kink and poly at the 1st annual AltSex NYC Conference is referenced in Debra Soh’s New York Magazine article “3 Insights about Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex”.

3 Insights about Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex

3 Insights about Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex

28 Apr 2016

My AltSex NYC Conference co-organizer Dr. Michael Aaron and I spoke with Dr. Timaree Schmidt about what we mean when we talk about “alternative sexualities.

Sex with Timaree Podcast - What are Alternative Sexualities?

Sex with Timaree Podcast - What are Alternative Sexualities?

16 Mar 2016

GO Magazine proclaims “The Kink Doctor Is In”.

The Kink Doctor Is In

The Kink Doctor Is In

15 Apr 2015

Brad Sagarin references the mechanisms that reinforce consent as outlined in my paper on consent versus coercion in his article for The Guardian “Never tried BDSM? Go on it’s good for you”.

Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you.

Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you.

9 Feb 2015

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