No Pain, No Gain? Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts

“No Pain, No Gain? Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts” by Dulcinea Pitagora was published online in The Journal of Positive Sexuality in November, 2016, and can be read in its entirety here, or by clicking the image below.

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BTRtoday

Break Through Radio Today breaking news: Female tops are a thing! Taia Hanlin quotes my take on what’s good and bad about sexuality research: “What Americans Are Doing in Bed May Surprise You.’” Click HERE or on the link below to read the entire article. http://www.btrtoday.com/read/featured/what-americans-are-doing-in-bed-may-surprise-you/

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The 2nd Annual AltSex NYC Conference on April 28, 2017—Save the Date!

I am excited to announce that Dr. Michael Aaron and I will be co-organizing the 2nd annual AltSex NYC Conference, which will be held on Friday April 28, 2017—save the date!  If you’re not already, subscribe to our email list for updates, including the call for proposal, registration dates, and other exciting news.  Looking forward […]

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1st Annual AltSex NYC Conference 2016—10 Days Left for Regular Registration

Hello Friends, Colleagues, and Community! I couldn’t be more excited to be involved in organizing and producing the 1st Annual AltSex NYC Conference on April 22, 2016 alongside Dr. Michael Aaron. Please see the stellar line up of speakers below, and note that the best time to buy tickets is now, before regular registration ends and prices go up […]

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Resources for Sexuality and Gender Warriors

Disclosure: I have a morning coffee and reading ritual, and this morning I realized I hadn’t yet followed Dr. Meg John Barker’s blog Rewriting the Rules—now corrected!  Dr. Barker’s latest blog post Beyond the Binary is inspiring in its eloquence and clarity around the important influence that “sexuality and gender warriors” have on questioning “static thinking about sexuality.” Give it […]

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I just signed the NCSF petition to make consent a BDSM defense.

Consent seems like it should be an obvious legal imperative, but unfortunately sometimes we have to state the obvious to our beloved but highly problematic and flawed legal system. So when I received an email today from NCSF asking me to sign a petition urging the American Law Institute to make consent a defense for BDSM activities… I urge […]

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Surfing the Win

Metaphorshadowing: Sometimes on my morning commute, perhaps depending on how heavy my backpack is on a given day, I’ll surf the subway. I’ll plant my feet with a slight bend in my knees and I’ll look at a fixed point, and I’ll refuse to hold on to anything as I try not to fall over […]

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A Mindful Celebration

Pride events across America have been transformed into optimal environments for cultivating collective amnesia. We forget that queer and trans people are still facing dire poverty and homelessness. As a result of joblessness, many of our folks struggle with substance abuse as a way to cope and fulfill needs we cannot satisfy elsewhere. Queer and trans people of […]

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Sliding Scale Appointments Now Available!

I have the pleasure of announcing that beginning this summer I will be working under the supervision of Dr. Kelly Wise, psychotherapist and AASECT certified sex therapist. I’ll be taking on a limited number of sliding scale appointments at his Union Square office, working with individuals, couples, non-traditional relationships and families, and current or former sex workers dealing with issues across the […]

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I think I just saw my therapist in leather.

A point of clarification: The title of this post is not a direct quote from myself or anyone else in particular, though I am fairly certain that these words have been uttered before, in a paraphrase if not verbatim. I bring up this idea because the potential for crossing paths with your therapist, or your client if you’re a therapist, […]

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